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All the single ladies, now put your hands up
- Beyonce, Put a Ring On It
Is your hand in the air right now? Does the thought of dressing up, meeting someone new, and making sparkling conversation sound next to impossible?
If yes, I’d put all my money on a bet that you have a hormone imbalance.
If you’re currently in the dating pool and struggling with a hormonal imbalance, you’re probably not, as I like to say, “rocking your mission.” Stress, sex drive, and body image issues can all be traced back to hormonal problems as well as less-than-stellar dating experiences. Today, I want to share with you my three best tips--from weight loss to libido--that will give your dating game a serious makeover.
Dating Dilemma #1: I’m Stressed!
Nearly all hormonal imbalances lead back to cortisol, the main stress hormone...and dating comes with plenty of cortisol-raising situations:
Pressure to look attractive and be interesting
Worries about being alone, ticking biological clock, etc.
Stress associated with body image and weight issues
...and many more. But here’s the thing: those elevated cortisol levels are only exacerbating the very problems you want to fix. Chronically elevated cortisol can slow down your metabolism, erase your sex drive, and turn you forgetful and frazzled.
What a wicked game to play, to make me feel this way.
- Chris Isaak , Wicked Game
Your Dating Dilemma Solution:
Reset your cortisol levels. In the long run, taking fish oil, doing yoga, and cutting down on caffeine will calm you down while simultaneously revving up your metabolism and sex drive. For an immediate soother before dates that have you all keyed up, deep breathing or guided relaxation before you meet up will keep your stress levels in control. Truth be told, you need a big sister to talk it all through. I have just the one for you! Her name is Marni Battista, and she is a Dating Whisperer. Seriously! And she has a free summit on how to date with dignity. Check it out!
Dating Dilemma #2: I Feel Frumpy!
It’s hard to find a woman who likes everything about her appearance. Muffin tops, thinning hair, annoying acne, and sagging skin are all problem areas my patients complain of. How are you supposed to be a fun date if you can’t stomach the idea of someone seeing you naked?
Your Dating Dilemma Solution:
Balance your thyroid. Low thyroid is associated with weight gain, brain fog, fatigue, thing, brittle hair, and mood problems. Many thyroid problems can be attributed to gluten sensitivity, stress, environmental toxins, or a vitamin D deficiency. If you suspect that your thyroid is off, I urge you to work with a physician to test your vitamin D levels, look into a gluten-free diet, and better manage your stress. And everyone can benefit from a greener environment: phthalates and BPAs that throw thyroid off track can be found in plastic food packaging, artificial fragrances, food pesticides, cosmetics, and textiles. Who knew that going organic would be good for your love life?
Dating Dilemma #3: I’m Just Not In the Mood!
It may be that you feel constantly frazzled and tired. It may be that you’ve lost your rosy outlook on life. Maybe you’ve got an obnoxious stress acne pattern that can’t be broken. It may be that sex sounds more like a chore than anything else. Having an upbeat mood and a luscious libido will make your dating life about 100% more fun, and the good news is that the hormonal balance you need to be juicy and joyful is a few easy steps away. If your sex drive has all but disappeared, you may be facing a progesterone shortage.
Your Dating Dilemma Solution:
Balance your estrogen and progesterone. These two sex hormones need to be kept in a delicate balance, and too much stress or a wonky thyroid can throw them off track fast. When estrogen and progesterone are in balance, your skin clears up, and you feel happy, sexy, and sharp as a tack. Here are my favorite ways to restore your sex drive and positive outlook:
Low progesterone is commonly coupled with high cortisol, so incorporate stress management techniques into your daily routine, such as using the HeartMath Inner Balance app.
75-90 mg daily of vitamin C
500-1000 mg daily of Chasteberry
Maca--add this magical powder to your morning smoothie for a boost in sex drive and healthier cortisol levels
Hear my thoughts in every note, oh! oh!
Make me your radio! Turn me up when you feel low.
This melody was meant for you.
- Adam Levine, Stereo Hearts
How to Ace Your Hormonal Blind Date
Most of us are on a blind date with our hormones; we know they’re out there, but we know next to nothing about them. I suggest getting to know your hormones on a very intimate level which can--speaking from personal experience--completely transform your body and mind. We’ve just scratched the surface of how hormonal balance can tweak your dating habits; if you want to go from blah to awesomesauce, dive headfirst into hormonal harmony and a rockin’ love life by registering for Marni’s upcoming Dating Summit, which begins very soon and it’s free! Go here to register - and be sure to catch my power hour with Marni, your amazing host! The summit launches September 24, and my interview with Marni will be on October 22. I can't wait to talk relationships with all of you!
Sara Gottfried, M.D. Sara Gottfried, M.D. teaches women how to balance their hormones naturally so they can rock their mission. She is a Harvard-educated physician, speaker and New York Times bestselling author of The Hormone Cure (Simon & Schuster, 2013). She is board-certified in Obstetrics and Gynecology, and is regularly featured in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Redbook, O Magazine, and Yoga Journal, and TV including The Ricki Lake Show and 20/20. Known for effortlessly blending the seriousness of women’s health with playfulness and humor, Dr. Sara’s mission is to help women lose weight, feel great and vital from their cells to their soul.