Fried: Why You Burn Out by Joan Borysenko, PhD
Posted on 18 September 2013
I'm loving Joan Borysenko's new book, Fried... except I think I'm fried. I hate it when that happens. I immerse myself, write and teach what I most need to learn. Joan refers to one symptom of burnout - the desire to take sabbaticals regularly - and that totally rings true for me, like an arrow to the chest. How can we move forward with our work, repair the world, heal others and not be desperate for a sabbatical every other minute? Here's Joan in the early part of the book, when she was recognizing some of her symptoms of burnout: I discovered that burnout is very poorly understood. None of the healers whom I consulted - either the traditional or the complementary - understood what the mechanics of burnout are and what is needed for recovery. I realized that unless the condition is recognized and taken seriously, physicians will keep missing it and handing out antidepressants. While medication can affort temporary relief for some people, it may also short-circuit the process of self-reflection which is ultimately where healing comes from. Plus we know that anti-depressants probably don't help mild to moderate depression - they are effective for severe depression but side effects (low libido, weight gain) may make them worse than placebo. Here are some favorite questions she posits.
- In what ways do adverse experiences in childhood lead to learned helplessness that increases your chances of burning out as an adult?
- How can you learn to manage your energy and find a dynamic state of balance?
- Once you pinpoint your temperament, how can you match it to the right kind of work?
- emotional exhaustion - deep fatigue and feelings of being emotionally drained and overwhelmed;
- depersonalization - a loss of self and a cynical disregard for the people you serve or live with;
- diminished personal accomplishment - a progressive loss of confidence and competence.